Monday, December 15, 2014
Sunday, December 14, 2014
I made it facebook official, but hadn't spread the news to the wider world of my blog.
I'm really thankful I've had no real sickness this first part. Some days I'm super exhausted and want to be in my bed at 4 p.m. This hasn't been really handy, since Kevin is deep in the throes of harvesting and is working longer hours than usual.
There is a lot more mental and emotional processing happening because of the way Elivette's birth went down. We want to have a solid plan in place to keep me safe and keep giving the Farm Fresh Family their mama.
I also had gotten serious this year about getting my doula certification from DONA and possibly even taking midwife assistant's class, and I'm disappointed to put that all on hold. I know there are a lot of working moms out there, but for me, and our style of parenting, I'll need to wait until the baby is about a year old before I take new clients. I'm still taking clients while I'm pregnant though!
Monday, November 17, 2014
I get asked now and again for advice.
One of the questions people hit me up for is "How do you get your kids to do chores?" The last time someone asked me this, I was caught off guard and probably half asleep and answered, "I don't know exactly. They just do."
My friend got a lot of mileage teasing me about my perfect well behaved little cherubs who just do their chores. Let me assure you, that is NOT the case. We have balking, stalling, uneager children who don't want to help just like everyone else.
I thought I would share some of what we do around here.
We start early. Elivette is two and puts away the dishes from the dishwasher with whichever sibling is on task. We don't make her do it every time, but we encourage her to do it frequently. We have moved the plates and glasses to a lower cabinet so the children can reach to put them away and get them out. When a job needs done, I generally ask the youngest child capable of doing that chore to do it. Frequently, I ask an older sister to accompany said younger to ensure the job actually gets done.
|Littlest Kitchen Helper|
It's expected. It's just part of our life, our routine. We all pitch in.
We pay them. We opted to pay our kids five dollars a week for doing their jobs. The caveat is if I get annoyed by having to ask them too many times or because they have been consistently doing a poor job, their pay is reduced by a random amount. Never once has a child argued with me about this, because they know if they've been shirking. Sometimes I'll even ask them, "If you were me, how much would you take off your pay this week?"
We do it together. I work with a younger child, helping them become successful at the task at hand until they are capable of doing it themselves. We sometimes all swarm on a certain zone and get it perfect. It's amazing how fast they'll pick up when they can watch a show when they are done :). Sometimes we set a timer and holler "10 minute tidy!" and we turn on some music and all work on our individual zones until the timer goes off.
I don't know exactly how I "get them to do chores", but with consistent chore doing, we manage to do them.
Thursday, October 30, 2014
I last posted 30 September and now it's 30 October.
I am trying to figure out how to really enjoy blogging and make it truly work for me, without unnecessary pressure--self-induced, of course. I need to figure out what my goals are.I need to figure out what I really want. Blogs I love to read always have beautiful pictures accompanying each post and I haven't gotten pictures off the cameras for over a month. I've also not taken very many pictures either.
Facebook is a super easy way to keep many of my loved ones up to date on our lives, but it also can be super time consuming and hard to make boundaries with it. I want to post there, but then I'm drawn to check to see if people have "liked" or commented, and I want to see what my friends are up to too and then I have a few groups I've been heavily involved in and somehow feel the pull to check those too, and before I know it, I've wasted many precious minutes/hours on other people's lives/articles I didn't know I wanted to read/answering questions I really didn't have time for when all I got on line for was to find a cracker recipe and "check my news feed really quickly". Famous last words.
I went to the Mother Earth News Fair in Topeka, KS this past weekend and the girls and my dad and I had an AMAZING time. We're thinking about milk goats and bees. We're contemplating making more things from scratch. We're looking at how we can be living even more sustainably. (And then I come home to all the Christmas catalogs in my mailbox!)
I got to stay with my sister and her beautiful family and have a too short of visit with one of my besties. The kids did wonderfully traveling and it was a glorious trip.
I took a little internet break while I was gone, and now it's been a full week. I miss it and don't miss it. I miss knowing what my friends are up to on a regular basis, but I don't miss all the mental and emotional clutter it brings with it.
Today Aviana made bread for the first time all by herself. It's not wanting to rise, so I'm not sure if she made an error, or if our house is just too cold.
Today (and yesterday) we had chicken soup with rice for lunch.
We've put all the bikes and riding toys and wagons in the barn for the winter. It's staggering how tidy the yard suddenly became! Kevin is winterizing all the equipment as we are supposed to get a hard freeze tonight. He's done combining the soy beans and has about 100 acres of corn to do. He's rained out today. Hopefully this afternoon we'll get to planting my bulbs and mums. I am totally a fair weather gardener.
Cadrian is having a hard time with his reading lessons every time, but then every time he makes a break through and shows me he really is ready for it. It's frustrating and challenging to know what's truly best for him.
Brielle played well with Elivette this morning so I could read to the boys. They've been into these Star Wars books we got from the library but I am done reading that drivel. It's time to introduce them to Little House or Narnia or something. Cadrian does well listening to read alouds but Denton is still a classic interrupter.
I have plans to make some pumpkin butter this afternoon too, so I'd better be starting.
Tuesday, September 30, 2014
Monday, September 22, 2014
I'm always curious about the average person's daily life. I found an amazing video on Netflix titled Life in a Day. It is a documentary of snippets of people's lives all over the world. It's a bit of time capsule. It was beautiful.
It inspired me to make one of my own.
I have done this before in written form, with pictures, but never with video. It took me quite a bit longer to put the thing together than I thought it would, especially because I got sick for several days right after I shot it. I stayed up late last night and now it's finally done.
I invite you to take twenty minutes out of your day to share part of mine. :)
Friday, August 22, 2014
I LOVE to throw parties. I have a philosophy: Go Big or Go Home. Kevin, my everlovin' introvert, can't understand it, but he assists me in all the ways he can. He gets into it too!
I like to have a theme for our birthday party. We just have one a year to celebrate all of us, all born in July and August. This year's theme was pirates.
|I had a talented friend draw a pirate.|
|putting the map back together|
|Then it was time for A Battle!|
|me best matey and meself|
|All our soggy pirates.|
|Elivette and her little friend Andrew|