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Friday, June 10, 2016
I first became committed to Gentle Parenting--parenting without threats, spanks, yelling, anger--three years ago. We always have been Attachment Parents--breastfeeding, baby wearing, cosleeping are a few of the tenets--, but I didn't understand Gentle Parenting or Peaceful Parenting, or how it could possibly "work". I even joined a Gentle Parenting board and tried to learn more, almost a decade ago, but it was not a good fit at the time.
Gentle Parenting as described eloquently by L.R. Knost "is guiding instead of controlling, connecting instead of punishing, encouraging instead of demanding. It’s about listening, understanding, responding, and communicating.” It is a concious shift away from the way I was brought up, away from what everything in my body is demanding, away from the gut center of my brain.
Gentle Parenting is, I think, a bigger challenge for me than traditional parenting because it requires more from the parent. More thought, more emotion, more connection, just more. No matter how you parent, or how many kids you have, it's hard, don't get me wrong. When I had two little daughters and I was spanking, it was hard. Now though, I have to think more about why I'm being reactive and what is going on in my child and what is the behavior trying to tell me and teach them how to problem solve at the same time I'm trying to change a diaper and spell a word and give directives and help a child and there are six of them!
I follow several Gentle Parenting pages on Facebook and it seems like they all have one or two children. It feels frustrating because they offer their good solutions, and say things like "if you...then they will..." and it just doesn't happen right away. The dynamics in a home with one or two children are very different than a home with several. I am dealing with teenagerish hormones at the same time I'm nursing a baby with four loud and active and strong children in between!
I don't think I thought this "big family thing" through very well.
Tuesday, June 07, 2016
|Brielle and Finnella looking for books on CD|
I have more than doubled the garden this year. I'm doing Square Food Gardening and trying something new, Straw Bale Gardening. I don't think my peas are going to make it, and will have to start over with them, but everything else looks good. I've gotten a new hobby of "planning", which is writing my to do list and decorating it, and writing down what we did in quick bullet points in a composition notebook. It's a fun segue between scrapbooking and keeping track of what I need to do on the backs of kids' drawings. Writing "water garden" in my planner helps it actually get done. Funny how that works.
|Finnella on Memorial Day|